Five Secrets to Weight Loss

Weight loss – such a “big” topic! Every month another book is out by
another expert on weight loss. Everyone wants to know the secret to
losing weight.

I certainly don’t have THE secret, but I do have some secrets, and I want
to share them with you in the hope you find them helpful.

Weight used to be a major issue for me. Losing weight was never out of
my thoughts, and I can’t tell you how many different diets, pills and
programs I tried until I discovered some “secrets” that have worked for
me for many years now.

So here they are. I hope they work as well for you as they have for me.

1. Change your focus from losing weight to achieving great health.

I grew up as a sickly child and I was a sickly young adult. I hated being
sick and never having energy to do all the things I wanted to do. So I
decided to learn about what creates great health.

First I read tons of books on nutrition and became convinced that I
needed to switch to organic foods. That was quite a challenge in 1961!
There was one coop health food store that I had to follow around Los
Angeles because it kept moving locations. But it was worth it! My rule of
thumb now is – if they didn’t eat it 100 years ago, then I won’t eat it now.
This cuts out most packaged and processed foods and leaves natural,
organic food.

2. Learn to read your body signals regarding what feels good to your
body and what feels bad.

I no longer read about all the different diets because I’ve learned to tune
into MY body so that I know exactly what my body needs for great
health. Since my body needs different things than your body, no single
food plan will work for everyone. Your job is to learn to tune into what
gives you energy and what robs you of energy, and what foods create
calmness and which ones create agitation. Once I learned what my
body needs for great health, I lost weight and kept it off easily.

3. Find a form of exercise that you enjoy and that you can do at least 5
times a week.

I discovered that I love to walk in nature, so I take a fast half-hour walk
every day. However, this can be a problem if you have physical
limitations or chronic illness. Losing weight with chronic illness or
physical limitations is not impossible, but it can be a much bigger

4. Learn to discern which part of you determines what and when you
eat, as well as how much you eat.

We all have a wounded part of ourselves that uses various addictions as
ways to deal with feelings of loneliness, aloneness, helplessness,
anxiety, depression, fear and anger. Some people may use alcohol,
drugs, spending, TV, gambling, sex, and so on to avoid their pain, while
other use food. While food may work to pacify painful feelings for the
moment, in the long run all addictions backfire and create the very pain
you are trying to avoid. Yet our wounded self keeps choosing addictive
behavior as a way of managing pain. As long as the wounded part of
you is making your food choices, you may continue to have a weight

The part of us that is capable of managing painful feelings in healthy
ways and making healthy choices is the loving Adult. The loving Adult is
the part of us that has a deep desire to learn about and take loving
action in our own behalf. Developing a loving Adult is a major aspect in
creating health and wellbeing, as well as in losing weight and
maintaining a healthy weight.

5. Learn to connect with a spiritual source of wisdom, strength, love and

The loving Adult is that part of us that is connected with a spiritual
source of guidance rather than being governed by the mind. The mind,
bring programmed from childhood, is the home of the wounded self. You
are being a loving Adult at those moments when you choose to be
guided by a source of wisdom beyond your mind. This source will
always guide you toward your highest good. You just need to learn to
open and listen.

It is very likely that you will not only lose weight, but will also move into
more physical and emotional health and wellbeing if you embrace these
“secrets” into your life. We offer you a free course (see the resource box)
to help you with developing your loving Adult. Once you have
developed a powerful loving inner Adult, you will be able to lose weight.
If you really want to lose weight, there is a way!

Margaret Paul, Ph.D. is the best-selling author and co-author of eight
books, including “Do I Have To Give Up Me To Be Loved By You?” and
“Healing Your Aloneness.” She is the co-creator of the powerful Inner
Bonding healing process. Learn Inner Bonding now! Visit her web site
for a FREE Inner Bonding course: or email her
at Phone sessions available.

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